Walkingback, Welcome. I am going to take advantage of your sitch in order to gain some insight for me and other LBSs (Left behind spouses) that are trying to save our marriages. Please take a look at these questions and do your best to give us your best answers. The first four are from a thread a couple years ago and I threw the last two in myself.
This is not, however, a one way street. You said that it may be too late for you. Please get your thread going and let us know what your sitch is so we in turn can help you. Already going? Let us know where.
Thanks a million from not only me but dozens more on here.
Questions for the WAS
1. Is it possible that the WAS just really doesn't have a clue how they feel?
2. Is it possible that the WAS could feel that they don't have any intentions of working things out, and then change their mind?
3. What goes through the head of the WAS once they are out on their own?
4. What is the most effective way of dealing with the WAS, in helping restore the R, and not scaring them off, or causing further damage?
5. What kind of face did you put on in front of your S when you saw him? Was it all an act? In other words, did you act confident with him but were sad and depressed behind closed doors?
6. If and when you saw him and ended up having a good time, did you soon after distance yourself?
