See, you handled that very well! She coulda been fishing for you to have initiated (or pleaded) to say: “Would you like us all to go out on your birthday?”

Let her keep initiating. In the future you will be able to make offers, or requests (never demands) for time together but for now, keep things this way. Enjoy your dinner, make her smile, and have a wonderful Birthday! After dinner cheerlead & validate (but don't grovel) about how much you appreciate her having done this for you.

Last year, my W did not even acknowledge mine. And this year, she baked me a cake and took me out to dinner with kids. No passion, but progress!

Now, if your W ends up backing out, don't react or confront her negatively, just let her know calmy and confidently that you're disappointed and then let it go. So Good Luck! Keep it up man, you're doing very good!

GG "You got to know when to hold them, know when to fold them..." The Gambler