W called me today and asked if I wanted to have the kids on my upcoming birthday even though it was her day. I said I would love to, but no, as it was her day to have them. She responded with, “Well, I offered.” I was not trying to be a martyr, just trying to show her what rules will affect us for the rest of our lives if D goes through.
She then called back within ten seconds and said, “Would you like us all to go out on your birthday?” I said that would be wonderful. So now we are all going out to dinner together.
Saw my MC later and she verified how ambivalent W still is, even though papers have been filed. My homework, keep her ambivalent, at least for now, through listening, validating, friendliness, etc. Wish me luck!
