Thanks GG, NYS, Hope, et al. Yep, I blew it. Yelled, forgot to empathize, forgot to validate, but hey, I forgive myself!

Went to the MC today and she reminded me that my W is "Drunk and Depressed." That I need to remember that when she is throwing dirt and that I am NOT TO FIX THINGS (stop the male instinct). This also answered my questions as to when W said, “I hate the house,” when only months ago she loved it. Well, being D&D (See above), she hates everything right now!

Unfortunately, I and MC seem to think this is going to get worse before it gets better. I am getting prepared. W needs to hit bottom before this can be salvaged. I am praying that she does it sooner than later and more importantly, safely.