W called me this mornign and said she filed. She was in tears and still sounds extremely confused. I tried to communicate that we still had a chance, and wasn't it worth one more try. I just don't know how to react anymore.
Believe it or not, that response of yours is still "pursuing".
She's sad over what has to happen, she's letting it out by crying. In lieu of telling her it needn't be this way, let her express her emotions while you listen and validate them. Let her dump her emotions out; it will bode far better for you if you're just there for her to do so, rather than reason with her to try to have her see the answer being working on the relationship.
Don't let the D get to you, it means nothing. As a legal structure for the relationship, of what good is it if the relationship isn't what it should be; what good is it if one of the parties sees it as confinement. It merely ends the legal tie, that's all.
Case in point: I signed off the D papers last week. Today my ex calls me to say she'd like to come out, spend the day and visit me tomorrow. Both events were in the works at the same time. The D was going through while I was working on a new relationship of friendship with her over the past 15 months ... so I ask you, does a D make a relationship get worse?
