Go back and review "1 Year of DBing" that I mentioned to you earlier--MF's story, OK?! You've got to be a friend, supportive, unconditional, nonconfrontive, and ATTRACTIVE NOWWW!!! THE Marriage should destroy the A, not the other way around. OM is applying the pressure, now you be there for her and BE SUPPORTIVE of her feelings. LISTEN to her, but dont offer any advice. Just listen.
You still might have a way to go, but you can either help your sitch or destroy it by how you respond to her. Man, please keep your cool and go easy, softly, slowly.
By the way, "pinging" as I understand it is the way a WAS will bounce back and forth like a ping-pong ball between distancing from you & telling you it's over, then giving you hope that they may be interested in returning. The undecidedness, and confusion of the WAS about what they really want.
Anyways, review MF's story & DB's "experiment & monitor results" I won't be available for the next couple of weeks, but I'll pop on when I can. Keep DBing man, you're doing great. I will be praying for you & yours.
GG
"You got to know when to hold them, know when to fold them..." The Gambler
