(Thanks again GG, I was writing the following just as you were posting your response, and as you see, you were right again! As you can see, I backslid a little and got defensive, but have learned no to do that again.)
I wanted to post and encourage others to believe what they read here and follow the advice given. If you have read my last few posts, you will see that Thursday night my W and I went out with the kids for the first time as a family in two months. She and I had a wonderful time and she even mentioned future plans with me and gave me a kiss before I left. I posted my progress that night and heard back from GGoingEZ suggesting that I be prepared for her to distance herself as that was common.
Within 12 hours she did just that. She found a reason to get extremely angry at me and took it to the limit. She sent no less than three very harsh emails to me throughout the day telling me that in essence it was over. Because of GG’s response and other posts I have read, I was somewhat expecting her response and understood it.
Another piece of advice I noted from an earlier post was to not point out the 180s you are doing to your spouse that he/she will surely notice them, but if you look for acknowledgement, you will get shot down.
Well, that too was right. In response to one of her emails I got defensive and tried to explain to her why I did something. The something was in fact on of my 180s. She responded very sarcastically and venomous with a “Yeah, whatever.”
So, what have I learned? #1, when I have a chance to be with her and enjoy it, don’t be surprised if she distanced herself quickly after. #2, don’t be defensive with her. Validate her but let it slide otherwise.
