Unfaithful wife

[GGgoingEZ]

I wish I knew more about your sitch because backing off too much can backfire at the same time that pursuing simply does not work.

Sometimes, despite what she says, my W actually wanted me to pursue her, and when I rejected her it made her feel that she might not have meant enough to me. They go back and forth resenting you for bugging them, yet resenting you when you don't give them their space. That's the tricky part. You dont want to come across as Needy, but neither that you totally dont care for them anymore. When SHE comes to you, or reaches out, listen and don't reject. She initiated, at least to me, some type of reassurance from you, take a chance and see what happens, but back off if it offends her.

What you might try is to say in a matter of fact kinda way, not all mushy and emotional, that while you want to work things out and discover together how to fix things, you understand that her feelings are her own and will respect her decision. You want to be there for her and create a new relationship and a new life together, but the choice is hers.

Good luck and I'll check back in on you. You're doing good.
GG