When H told me last week he was sorry...I told him he was forgiven. Not, "That's OK" or "don't worry about it." I meant, I forgive you, but you are not going to do it again. I forgive you, but you will not have the chance to hurt me this way again.

I know this doesn't work for reconcilliation, but it released me from some of the cruddiness I was feeling. I almost felt like, H could not have prevented it, it's just the way he is....weird huh? It was like trying to blame a cat for having wiskers, he's just made that way.

So, I forgave him for the affair, but I also realized that I have to start holding him accountable for his actions as they impact the kids...but that would be a hijack here, so...

Each experience in life has formed me, become part of me, made me stronger.