Today I'm thanking my lucky stars again that you are all at the right place at the right time for me Or do I mean I am at the right place

Way back a year or so ago, when I was ready to pack it in, you all came along and showed me how to have faith in the dbing process. And here we are, with a line that has just realigned my thinking again - thanks Betsey
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N reminds me (at least 1000 times a year) that forgiveness is a process. And just when you think something is completely behind you, something pops back on your screen to let you know you're not finished.

Duh. I don't know why I've been carrying around this notion that forgiveness is a destination I will arrive at, and of course it is not. Dbing is a process, so then will its components be, no? And yes, just as I think I'm letting go, and something new, unexpected happens, and I feel residual resentment surfacing. Ugh. How do I know this is a process for me too? The associated pain and anger is less than it used to be, even 3 months ago. So its up to me to settle down, expect the process to take as long as it takes, and expect to be surprised every now and then.

Do I want to do anything to accelerate this process? If I was in constant anguish, probably I would. But given that 98% of the time I am happier than I recall being, it is probably wise to let this unfold as it will.

Slowly

A Liberal Allowance of Time