We have been without a phone line for 4 days, the engineers have just been and fixed the problem. It has been a useful time of reflection, and I now know that for me, the way out of these little ruts I get into is to have a set of small goals that I can monitor progress against. NG and I have been slipping back into 'bad' habits, and we need to stop taking each other for granted. So, for now, my goals are:
+ re-start my exercise routine - two sets of 15 minutes every day + pull a mystery on NG - make him sit back and wonder a little + keep a journal here as best I can
Slowly
I am with you on this! It is SO easy to slip into bad habbits. Thats one of the reasons that I am so keen on DBing; so that I can be more aware of my R and nip the regressions in the bud.
Like you I have started exercising - BUT I have not told H. I have been training with the boys (sons 9) Most dry days and doing some weights and keep fit stuff indoors on the wet days. He has actually noticed a trimmer me; so thats all good!
I love the mystery agenda. I have a couple going on right now. I have party marked on my calender for December. It is something to do with the children but...he doesn't know that He is well curious! He'll probably laugh when he finds out though!!
** Note to self must get a life so I get an invite to a *real* party!! LOL
Other stuff includes: Buying a different perfume. New underwear. Even down to a different type of milk makes my H look at me curiously!! What else.... Going out in the evening alone or with a friend. (I haven't done that yet.)although I am going to the theatre tonight with friends.
Sitting next to H; we usually sit in separate chairs and lately I have perched myself on the arm of his chair for a few moments.
I am looking for some inspiration myself actually for some other mysetry thingsto do..
He is well curious! He'll probably laugh when he finds out though!! 
