That sounds like a great 180 to me! Don't feel alone, you're not the only DB'er who pressures H with expectations and ends up disappointed. My H says I miss the little things he does by focusing on what I expect him to do. He's right.
Good that you realized your part in the problem, and I'm glad you shared because I'll be thinking about how I do that too in my sitch.
Hope you have a FABULOUS BDAY!! Do something exceptional for yourself!
