Happy Monday everyone Well, today I really do not feel like starting a work week, but figured I should fake being happy about it and who knows, by lunch I may actually feel OK NG and I continue to muddle through, and every now and then we do something different. Work is hectic for us both, though I am being good about shutting my laptop at 6, and hanging out with friends instead, usually on the phone. Since that strategy, NG too has cut back on the overtime.

We had a major breakthrough this weekend, he actually agreed to paying off a loan, and adding my name as co-owner of an investment. This was a potentially tricky one; back about 10 years ago, it made tax sense to have just his name on the investment. Since the affair, I feel like I need to be more careful, as alien occupation seems to hit even the most level headed of people. NG has been quite sensitive about the 'lack of trust' but I guess I spoke softly, brought it up once every month and dropped the subject immediately after making my point quickly, so he understands I'm serious, but has not been 'nagged' into it. Moving in the right direction, from my perspective.

I still struggle to keep my expectations low, of myself and of everyone else. SP, this is perhaps the biggest change to my communications style. I suggest and then leave it out there for NG to ponder. Flogging dead horses are out. I try to let him know that my expectations are very low, and you know, he does so well to beat them. From the simple things like what we plan for a Sunday. If I want lots of excitement, he ends up doing nothing. If I take the position of just being happy hanging out, he inevitably plans for something interesting. Its a tough one though, I keep backsliding to making grand plans, have NG dig his heels in, and then go low on my expectations again.

Slowly

A Liberal Allowance of Time