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Was NG very romantic before the A? Are you wanting him to act like he did previously or is this new romantic behaviour you would like to see?


NG was very romantic when we were first dating, and somewhere along the line we both went to sleep at the wheel. So yes, I am looking for new behaviour, to some extent. But lately, I've also come round to thinking that he expresses his feelings his way, which I've been slow to pick up. For example, when we are sitting on the sofa watching tv, and we have guests, he will hold my hand discreetly Granted that it is not as flamboyant as a bunch of flowers, but maybe it means more to him?
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Do you think his love tank is running low and that is why he's not being romantic? What are his LL?

There is some of this too. I just posted earlier today on the Rottzs thread, NG is into QT in a big way, and if I can just curb my energy and simply 'be' with him, wonderful things happen. Its an adjustment, I used to be the type that needed to get through 20 things a day to feel like its been a good day Slowing down has been good for me, and the R.
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Any ideas about how to make NG feel more comfortable about opening up and discussing his family? What has worked before?

To be honest, nothing has worked before, and I'm not sure I tried too hard either. Just lately I've concluded that many of his issues are rooted in a fairly dysfunctional childhood, and I'll just have to be an open minded listener for him to continue to open up. A little goal has been to draw him out on a childhood anecdote every weekend, and through these, learn more about what it was like for him. Its working, so far

Slowly

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