Be careful staying up that late. At that hour the only people up are Me, KimberlyC, OGLou and our European friends!!! Apparently Kim and I have never heard of going to bed at a decent hour. I've found that I'm sitting here at the computer and hearing "Late Night with Conan O'Brien" in the background way too much lately.
After reading your post from EARLY this morning, let me be the first to say that I think you handled that INCREDIBLY well yesterday.
Forgive me but it's hard for me to hold back my opinion as you know. That being said, after following your story for a while, I will say that I think this separation has been a long time coming. I know deep down it is not what you want (Hell, if we all got what we wanted, this website would be shut down for lack of interest). But, I think that you (and your H) are going to now start to find out what's really at stake.
You may realize that you really need him and are willing to work through all of the crap, or you may realize that a weight has been lifted off your chest and you are going to start feeling better every day.
He may realize that he needs to get help for whatever is going on in his head, and he'll seek it out with the goal of making it right with JV, or he may realize that drinking and playing Poker all night, every night is the life he wants.
EITHER WAY, JV IS GOING TO GET THROUGH IT.
Look, I know you check up on me occasionally, and I appreciate that greatly, so you know that I've been at the absolute bottom. Actually I think I went a few feet below the bottom. I still struggle often, but it's not everyday anymore. Every day that goes by is one more day that we learn something about ourselves (and usually about our WAS's).
In closing JV, no matter what the outcome of this new development, yesterday was the beginning of a new chapter in JV's life. Let's make the best of it!!
, you're pretty cool JV!! 
