Deb, don't read things into your life from my thread. Maybe you have a bit of the "self-fulfilling prophecy" going on? You believe it so much, and read so much into H's moods that you push him away? I also believe a bit of tough love is in order - for you. I say that with love, but you really just need to back off and let him sort things out and detach so you are not going crazy. Detaching was the best thing I ever did. Do your own thing, go out with friends, do another 180 - how long has it been since you have done that? Don't be the same old Deb you have always been - but do it for you. Make yourself proud of you. H has lots of issues to work through. Validate, listen, try to help him through, but you really need to detach and start to live your own life right now or else we will be writing you letters in the hospital when you have a breakdown. We don't want to see that happen to you. You're much stronger than that.
Maybe you have a bit of the "self-fulfilling prophecy" going on? You believe it so much, and read so much into H's moods that you push him away? I also believe a bit of tough love is in order - for you. 
I say that with love, but you really just need to back off and let him sort things out and detach so you are not going crazy. Detaching was the best thing I ever did. Do your own thing, go out with friends, do another 180 - how long has it been since you have done that? Don't be the same old Deb you have always been - but do it for you. Make yourself proud of you. 