for what it is worth, I think you have done a remarkable job. I think you have been patient, kind, forgiving, yielding, sexy, funny, giving, understanding, etc. You have done it all. I don't think any of this is that you need to be doing something different....because it isn't about you! It is about him! As long as you are being a strong, indedpendent, sexy, confident women with lots of things going on in her busy life, then there is nothing more for you to do! I would cease all conversations regarding OW. Let her become a non-entity. Then get on with your life. I bet your H would be very attracted to a smart, funny, lively, sexy, CONFIDENT woman who doesn't need to discuss OW because who in their right mind would choose Her over you, anyway????????? It's all in the attitude, Deb. That is when my H came back 100%. Wear a rubberband around your wrist and snap it when you have the urge to grill H about that pesky OW. It only keeps her in the forefront of his brain. STOP. I know for some reason he gets a kick out of discussing her with you, but I would tell him that you simply don't want her to be a part of your conversations anymore, and THEN CHANGE THE SUBJECT....I would also refrain from the constant temperature checks, it makes you look needy. STOP, DEB!How about next time H says "relax" say "whatever do you mean, I am long over all that! I have better things to do than worry about this crap!" just make sure you find other fun things to do...that way you have something else to focus on.
and order some exercise videos, and we can discuss those!
