Hi YoYo...Just happened to catch your post, I'm in the office for a few minutes today catching up before vacation.to try to answer your questions:
In my experience, my H ONLY talked about ow when they were on the outs/breaking up. otherwise, he would be absolutely quite about her...other than when the damned A was really new, when he talked about her constantly and his face was all lit up....vomit..gag...urp..

so, in my opinion and experience, it is a very very good sign that your H's A is probably winding down. I have seen this in other sitchs on the board also.

I have to throw in a word of caution though, in my sitch and in others it is a gradual process of breaking up and letting go, and most WAS's seem to need several tries at it. My H broke up with ow several times, and swore it was over for good (2X) and then went back. not to mention many tiny "breakups". Each of these previous big breakups lasted about 2 weeks, and I KNEW they were back together because he stopped talking about her and the A. That is why I never shut him off when he talks about it now, it's hard sometimes but it is my way of knowing what's going on. That's also why I find myself holding my breath praying for more time to elapse.

So, it's very good that he's talking about it, but it maybe one of those sitchs where it takes several tries to end it for good. That is VERY hard to deal with from the LB's side, but you can do it.

I would suggest now that you listen and validate as much as you possibly can. He is probably to some extent trying to "solidify" the ending of the A in his own mind, and I believe they really sometimes need to be able to talk about it.

in my case, I believe today marks 12 weeks that H has not been w/ow on the weekends. I actually mark it down in my calendar ....the darned A ended almost exactly 2 years after it began. after it turned into PA, anyway, I'm pretty sure it was EA for 6 mos before that.

It's been a long hard road, but yesterday when I got home, h met me in the hallway as I came in the door with hugs and kisses and "ILY's"...made me cry tears of joy.

Do not give up if you want your H/M....honestly, I now believe firmly in miracles, I cant tell you how bad and dark things looked for a while when I first found this board.

take care yoyo, I really thing this is a great positive in your sitch. I'm going to be gone for 2 weeks, so dont' think I'm ignoring you if I don't post for a bit.

been around awhile!