Quote: part of what makes it so hard is not the other person, IT IS GIVING UP THAT FANTASY, AND FACING THE REALITY THAT THIS IS HOW YOUR LIFE IS GOING TO BE. IT IS HARD TO LET GO OF THAT FANTASY, IT IS AN ESCAPE FROM A DIFFICULT SITUATION".
One thing my h said to me after he turned around was, that he realized he wanted that fantasy love, but wanted to have it with me.
You need to really get a move on and let H see that he iSN'T coming back to the same old same old - that this can be a FUN, new ECXCITING R with you. For some silly reason, my H really liked calling me by a new name, pretending I was his "new" girlfriend, etc. I loosened up and teased and joked with him a lot. Start romancing your H, and surprising him with 180s, so that he won't know what to expect every day when he comes home. And get back into "merchandising" your home - so he comes home to soft lighting, music, good smells, etc.
