My H is 36 - the young bloomers in the MLC stage? The A should be about 9 months now. I guessed you could still regard that to be in the honeymoon stage. Compared to our R which clocked up to 18 years, yesterday. Yes, I am sure OW would have EXPECTATIONS that she is very cleverly shielding from H from the moment. I guessed I really have to be PATIENT to wait for the devil to reveal herself. I am sure she would, she's single, 33 (I think) and I am sure dying to get hitched.
Quote: read somewhere that women tend to have A's for power and money...men tend to have them for excitement
Wow...OW is a subordinate at his work. Mmmm....
I agree with you on the part to develop/nurture the only connection with H, i.e. s@x. In the midst of our big big arguments, we still ML and that was the only CALM event in our lives. Thankfully, I read DR and DBING after that. But, I do still have my sliding down the mountain moments.
In the beginning, when I asked H about what made him have the A, he said it was a "challenge" in the beginning that got out of hand. I don't know, perhaps, he was in a very stressful and new job. And I was not understanding in the late nights, and pressures at work. Nagging all the time. Highlighting my disappointments when he doesn't get the chores that he promised done. At one point, we were fighting every day. And on hindsight, I started most of the arguments. OW, was there working together and understood the tough pressures? Also, I guessed I haven't really validate H enough, or praise him enough. Basically, I havent' been his cheerleader. (Heck, I was a cheerleader at high school!!) I am trying to acknowledge his achievements, praise him etc, but I need to do it very subtly and slowly, bit by bit. Otherwise it would be tooo fake.
Thanks for your time, deb. I really need to have a clear mind to be patient and understanding. I really need to control my emotions and make sure that they don't get derailed.
