Okay- she is a complete nut job. Deb, just ignore her. SHe's not worth it.
Your mention of the "deer in the headlights" thing is so spot on. Now I get it. In June 2003 when I suspect my H started up his a. he had that "look' on his face of sheer terror, fear, confusion , etc. I don't know what. But I will never forget it and I wondered what terrible thing was happening to him.
Thanks for clearing that up. It just clicked when you said that.
