ow truly is a mess. the more i find out about her, the more shocked i am. How on earth I ever thought she was something to envy. Even if H was gone from my life, I would not be like her.
Evidently she is one very nearly psychotic piece of work. H's diagnosis is borderline personality disorder...and he even mentioned he wondered if she was maybe MPD...because she can be so hateful and cruel and cold and ripping a person to shreds and then it's like she has no recollection of it. How then she'll flip to being so warm and loving....said it's "like Dr. Jekyl and Mr. Hyde, and I've seen way to much of Mr. Hyde"...is the way H describes it.
How she sets people up to be the bad guy...she really played the guilt cards (as I suspected) about how she'd given every thing up for him, done all this "for them", and then he let her down, let her D down. h said he'd observed her doing the same thing with her former live-in bf, how she'd used him and manipulated him and how cruel she had been to him...and he's really a nice guy (I don't know him, but H used to play softball with him)...
H said that while she was living with her ex-bf, carrying on with H and making plans to dump the live-in, there was a 3rd guy....at the same time....a guy named Ed who lives just a little ways from here. Ed sent her flowers, lots of flowers, and lots of emails (her favored mode of operation, I guess). Evidently the x-bf found the emails and confronted her about them, H said he didnt think x-bf ever knew about him (H). wow, 3 at once. I'm impressed. I think I already mentioned in an earlier post how she used to move from one guys house to another's....
I mentioned earlier that H said "from a legal standpoint I've been raped, kidnapped and assaulted" and he said "you don't know the worst of it and you never will"....that sent could chills down my spine.... I don't know what he meant about the rape stuff...I'm guessing he said "no" and she didnt take no for an answer...but anyway, not going there.
H said that he didnt know how to get out of it, and had a hard time figuring out how to, because he was afraid of what she might do, that he worried sometimes that she might show up at our house with a gun "or something"... as far as the other, he said that she had set her newest deadline for him leaving home to move in with her for this past month....June 1....D and SIL were here on that weekend. h had told her he wasnt doing it then...H went for one of his LOOOOOOOng walks that weekend.....and yes, the wh--e picked him up. So, yes, I was right again, that was what was going on ; H says it wasnt all the time on his long walks, just "sometimes on the real long ones"...so anyway, when he refused to leave home that weekend, she said "no, you're not going back, you're staying here", refused to take him home, made threats (I don't know what of), and ran from door to door trying to keep him from leaving. H said he finally got out of the house, told her he was calling 911 if she didnt let him and had the phone in his hand....and started walking home (it's about 12 miles, he'd have been good and late)....walked all through town and on to the highway, thinking maybe he could hitchhike, and then she came and picked him up. Took him to the "drop-off" point, dropped him off, and then tried to run him down with her vehicle. he managed to get out of the way and run, and then she swang the car around and came after him with the door open, trying to hit him with that. I don't know how he managed to get out of the way, I'm guessing it was on some exit ramps off the highway, and somehow he got down the side. I do remember being crazily anxious that day because he was gone so long, and that he looked like he'd been hit by a train when he got home. I remember I was at the store, and when I came in the drive way he literally ran out to the car saying he'd been trying to call me, and was kind of panicky. I'm guessing that was the assualt (more like battery, if you ask me), although commented "you don't know how many times I came close to calling 911"...
I cringed hearing this, told H I was frightened after the fact, and he said, "you don't have to worry, I think it's me she's after if anyone"...duh, he's the one I was worried about.
H said she would throw things at him if he ever made the mistake of glancing at his watch, so he'd have to try to sneak looks at the clocks in her house, that she stole his watch once and refused to give it back (another time he threatend to call 911)....
that she would always sneer at him "you're going back to your family" in a real hateful voice, that she was so jealous of the female coworker in the other office, the secretary, the kids (our kids) and of me....
That she would ask questions about us, and he would tell her our R was none of her business, and she would say "yes it is my business" and throw one hell of a fit...
Then I get to work this morning, and the Wh--e has parked in my parking place and is just getting out of her vehicle as I pull up... H said he had told her before to knock it off, and she'd said she had the right to park anywhere she wants...which is what i knew she'd do...It is still a way for her to torment me...but oh well. it occurred to me that I should put a sign on my dash that says "Living well is the best revenge" in big letters and then park next to her.... I feel certain she's just daring me to do something. This is her first day back at work since her "vacation", which H guesses she has found someone on the 'net and spent the vacation going to meet them....so her first new "shot" at me.
I'll be damned if I'll give her the satisfaction, though.
; H says it wasnt all the time on his long walks, just "sometimes on the real long ones"...so anyway, when he refused to leave home that weekend, she said "no, you're not going back, you're staying here", refused to take him home, made threats (I don't know what of), and ran from door to door trying to keep him from leaving. H said he finally got out of the house, told her he was calling 911 if she didnt let him and had the phone in his hand....and started walking home (it's about 12 miles, he'd have been good and late)....walked all through town and on to the highway, thinking maybe he could hitchhike, and then she came and picked him up. Took him to the "drop-off" point, dropped him off, and then tried to run him down with her vehicle. he managed to get out of the way and run, and then she swang the car around and came after him with the door open, trying to hit him with that. I don't know how he managed to get out of the way, I'm guessing it was on some exit ramps off the highway, and somehow he got down the side. I do remember being crazily anxious that day because he was gone so long, and that he looked like he'd been hit by a train when he got home. I remember I was at the store, and when I came in the drive way he literally ran out to the car saying he'd been trying to call me, and was kind of panicky. I'm guessing that was the assualt (more like battery, if you ask me), although commented "you don't know how many times I came close to calling 911"...