Deb - just a thought - have you and H settled into too much of a "just like it was before" rut? Just because he has given up OW doesn't mean he is over his MLC/Depression need for novelty , excitement, etc. - which may be why he is still filling that with OW drama.
What can you do to shakeup the routine at home? When he is wondering what the next interesting asurprise from you will be, he'll be thinking less about OW.
And can't you two get out of town to some place new and exciting for the weekend, just the two of you? I'm thinking less intimate B and B and more exciting city/NY/Paris or tropical beach paradise. Something different, with exciting new experiences for you to share.
