Hi Mollie, your post is timely, as I'm having kind of a bleh day, and the anxiety is wanting to push me hard...so far I'm pushing back, and not doing too badly. but I'm always surprised at how strong it still is. So, I sure needed to hear this:
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Keep letting him initiate contact for awhile. You don't want to get that clingy look to you!



So true. and today I could have that "clingy look" because frankly I feel clingy. I've been thinking though about what is causing this, and I know there are several things: H and I are both really tired today after the whirlwind holiday weekend, so there's not much chit-chat & no ml the last couple days; my period started, ALWAYS guaranteed to send me clutching for him; H seems sad sometimes, and that makes me anxious to think that he's missing her so much, and H took his ring off to go walking last night and he didnt put it back on this morning ---sigh. I know I should have no expectations about it, and I didnt say anything about it, but still it would have been so nice and so reassuring if he was wearing it.

And not much email from him today.

Before work this morning I actually backslid a little....I was just feeling tired and icky, and H was his usual preoccupied with getting to work self, and as we were hugging good-bye, I said "Are we going to make it?" stupid question, but it just jumped out.

H got kind of irritated at that, and I honestly can't blame him. he said "why do you bring this up now, "that other thing" is way over. We've made it 26 years, why wouldnt we make it more??? I havent done anything to get an a$$ chewing for"...

I told him I didnt mean to chew his a$$, and that I didnt have any reason to think we wouldnt/be upset with anything he had done, but that it just still hasnt soaked in yet that it really is over, and that I'm having a hard time letting it soak in...H said "well, let it soak in!"....

So, I need to focus on what i need to do to get on with my life and the good stuff in "our" life. It just really does take a while. and it's hard not to be anxious.

I know that if we can get some of the stuff caught up around the house we will both feel better, and if indeed the phone bill goes down and H keeps being more demonstrative at times, it will help in a fairly short time.

been around awhile!