I'm going to be the one to disrupt the discussion here today! (W-I did read your post yesterday, but so busy w/Gal that I didn't bother to respond-sorry!)
The discussion I want to bring up was how we didn't give the WAS enough of what they needed during the M but that also meant we stopped living our own lives in doing this. Giving up the things that we enjoyed in order to keep the spouse happy.
How does anyone correct this sitch? It could be impossible. We can either focus on ourselves which would probably be the best thing to do or we focus on finding their LL. I think most of our exS are not at the point to even 'allow' us to fill their love banks right now.
All we can do is hope that the past brings up some of the memories of when we did do that for them.
I believe that my ex LL was physical touch. There is no way for me to fill that anymore since we are no longer in physical contact. Mine is QT, but even his 2hr phone call seemed lacking in something there. Therefore, I am moving on more and more everyday.
I like the fact that you are focusing on the k's ll at this time, Wes.
