Rather than jumping in to reassure her about the specific issue, maybe offer s/t general, such as to the legs question, "To me, you are a wonderful lovable person, exactly as you are." Or to the mothering question, "(Child's name) loves so very much. Why do you ask that?" to help her release her tension/worrie and give you a chance to demonstrate great listening.
Hang in there, Buddy. Tomorrow is another day. Self-focused GAL is where I'm at as well. I'm going to pick up the weekly entertainment section of the paper and devise fun weekly outings for myself or with friends, go out and meet people, and get out to enjoy nightlife, nature - but as adult time. Most of my other GAL stuff has been as a parent, w/ S5 who I love dearly, but now its time to do more than that.
You are seeing the odds pretty accurately, I'm afraid. It totally depends on the WAS doing their work successfully, and coming to a place where they both see their role in the M demise, but also the positive changes in the LBS and in themselves that spark hope for s/t better.
