Interesting things on your threads. Sorry I haven't posted my terrible advice. I've just had very limited time. I posted some of my weekend on the inspiration thread because I am inspired.
So what's happened with my sitch? Well, My PMA is great and I think maybe she sees the difference in me. My PMA is soaring and I hope it never goes back down.
Let's see...Friday night and Saturday afternoon I went to a swim meet out of town. Had the best time with my boys. We laughed and joked and just had fun. I did get the opportunity to largely finish the love languages book. I'm physical touch. My X went to a concert by herself 400 miles away from home. I did call to make sure she made it okay, but no answer. She called back the next day to tell me she had driven all the way back home after the concert and was fine. Good convo. She liked the concert and we discussed her late night drive. Saturday I tried multiple times because it was her son's b-day but no answer. I did finally talk to her on Sunday and talked to my x-step son. He had a good b-day I guess and liked the present from me.
Then the excellent concert. Wow! I'm still moved. I didn't devote all the time to X. I called K on Sat. morning and after the concert. It was nice talking to her as well. I called X on Monday morning to tell her about the concert. So I guess I can't say I actually let go, but I've kept everything in the moment. No us talk or anything that even implies us.
Since I've got back we went out to eat for her b-day. We really connected over dinner and she initiated a hug after it. The only touching I've done the entire time has been to rub her arms when she had goosebumps. She called first thing Tues. and then dropped by. I've kept her kids for part of this time since they wanted to hang out with us. We went to lunch and the waterpark yesterday and we all had a good time. My X just stayed behind to work (thankfully since I don't want to deal with a half dressed X).
Last night she said her uncle wanted to take her to dinner for her b-day and wanted me to come along. I said I had all the kids and didn't think I'd go. She said.."it won't be very long. They'll be okay for a bit by themselves." This is completely out of character. She isn't this way...especially since she has complained my kids are too rough with her son and now she's suggesting my oldest watch everyone. Not at all usual behavior. She really seemed to want me there. She also kind of invited herself to the movie with us and then suggested that since we had seen the movie the kids were going to that we should go to a different one. I was proud of myself for not putting my arm around her or any touching at all (yes, at previous movies I have put my arm around her). We went to wedding crashers. I thought it was hilarious. After the movie we parted ways but it was on a good note at least. She said she got the most kick out of listening to me laugh.
This is getting long but I'll bring it up to present. She called to ask if I wanted to go to breakfast and we talked a bit about some other issues. Haven't went to breakfast yet, but will shortly I expect.
There is just a different feel here. Since this weekend I feel like I can take or leave interactions with her and most of the expectations are gone. I can and will go on without her in my life if that's how it is going to be.
There, now you don't have to worry anymore that I somehow went dark on the X. I hope you're all having a good day. I've missed you all.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
My X went to a concert by herself 400 miles away from home. I did call to make sure she made it okay, but no answer. She called back the next day to tell me she had driven all the way back home after the concert and was fine. Good convo. She liked the concert and we discussed her late night drive. Saturday I tried multiple times because it was her son's b-day but no answer. I did finally talk to her on Sunday and talked to my x-step son. He had a good b-day I guess and liked the present from me.
