I replied to your questions in my thread too (it's in the Newcomers Section titled " Remember Me? A DB Success Story").
In my Jurisdiction, you cannot get a Divorce until one year has passed from the date of actual physical separation. Furthermore, we were required to attend a mandatory class on Parenting after Separation (which had a HUGE impact on my Wife).
Thanks God for these stipulations or maybe we'd already be divorced.
I think that once you detatch completely, once they've had some "space" then and only then will things start to happen.
My opinion is this: if you don't want to give up on your Marriage, then don't. Keep fighting. Shakespere said it best "To thine own self be true".
Life is about choices.
Some easy, some hard.
But the Power to choose is yours and yours alone.
You can CHOOSE to give up or you can CHOOSE to fight.
You can CHOOSE to remain in Love with your Spouse or you can CHOOSE not to.
My Wife, in spite of everything decided that she would CHOOSE to Love me again and come home. It took nearly a year from the date of the bomb dropping, but she is back.
