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The title "This is the thread....." is short for "This is the thread where I get my ex-wife back".



I said this? About this thread? I guess I better post at month intervals if I want to try to make that happen.

My updates (I feel guilty even updating): After work I went to see OW who I'm pleased to say actually seems to enjoy being around me. It's actually difficult to end conversations with her. I arranged to meet her for dinner during her break. Dinner was really quite nice. Finally delved a little bit into her previous marriage or two (to the same guy). She was actually the WAW the first time and came back after divorcing. She's real easy to talk to. And being the chicken that I am I haven't made any attempt to move it past a comfortable time together. Actually the hour break turned more into an hour and a half. But I guess enough about that because it doesn't related to DBing...more along the lines of putting extra nails in the divorce coffin.

I did drop by the X's place after that to drop off the present for her son since I'll be out of town and ended up walking with her parents and her. She wasn't especially talkative...at least not to me. Again...the sarcasm and a feeling that she was "looking down her nose at me". Kind of like whatever I said was going through an analyzing machine to see if I'm in some way slighting her. Yes, I know, it may be my imagination and I shouldn't read anything into non-verbal cues. After I left I called her and asked if she had a problem with me. I kept it really light and got off the subject quickly so it didn't go badly.

What if my X called and wanted to come back now? I'd first have to figure out why and then I guess explain it to OW. And if several months elapse and I've went out with OW multiple times and there is more of an emotional attachment? Do I want to end up like that guy I posted on inspiration stories with myself and one other person hurt? Am I answering my own question? Weigh in here please. I enjoy spending time with this girl. But what would anyone here suggest....and be honest. Is this selfish to see this girl? Is it dishonest to not tell her I'm not over my X by a long shot, but need to experience this? For all I know she's not over her X either.

UD-I'll do your opinion for you..."Wes, this is psychotic. You were making headway with your X. What possessed you to look elsewhere?" Is that about right?

In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years.
Abraham Lincoln

It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed.
Theodore Roosevelt