I think I see what you're saying. Compromise involving a healthy balance of giving and taking is good, but getting stuck in the role of either Giver or Taker is not.
In terms of guys giving in to avoid the emotional fallout from the W, Deida probably helped me the best on this point. To be okay or comfortable with W's expresssivenes and cyclical emotionality, even celebrating this difference b/t her and I, with this highlighting her femininity.
Rather than withdrawing or bracing for it when I see her starting to vent, moving to close the distance or at least increasing the intimacy, so that she gains in time a sense of safety or respect for my ability to hold her fullness.
I think that would be a fuller discovery of one's self, a form of personal growth that most men might appreciate in themselves, as it doesn't involve abandonment of masculinity or passivity.
