Thanks for the input. Point well taken Gabe about how much she did or didn't pine away. I mean just look at me for instance.
As the title says...I feel really good. Kind of an odd relief. My ex called about 5 times tonight. When I called her back finally she seemed perturbed. She wanted to play some tennis, but made a point of saying "but no touching". I'm a little disappointed because I didn't really have any interest in that tonight.
I must say that tennis was very unpleasant. She was very untalkative, unanimated, and crabby. I stayed fairly upbeat I think and tried to engage her in conversation, but maybe I should have just left her alone with her crabbiness. It probably wasn't about me.
Anyway, I feel really good. I don't feel disturb about her earlier comments, am not upset that I had an unpleasant time, and don't care what is going on with her. I did think that I really don't care to play with her anymore as long as she's like this. I'll at least turn her down next time.
As I drove home I was obviously drawing the contrast between my ex-W and the uphill battle I'll face with her and how pleasant last night was. ALthough when you meet someone they aren't at their worst, it still is nice to have a clean slate.
Oh Bruce, you mentioned I think on UDs thread about thinking of your ex as a new woman you are trying to interest and date. I can't think in those terms or I would have given up on the ex quite a while ago. I would never pursue someone else like this with so little gratification.
Okay, so my attitude sucks. I'm being a piss poor DBer. I'm considering pursuing a R with someone else...which isn't exactly DBing. I suppose I'll get my stuff together. Thanks all.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
