Quote: I don't know how to go about that without the onset of pursuit or pressure felt by my W. I have made offers to do lunch or other things before, but they were rebuffed. So, I don't know the path I'm supposed to follow in this regard. It is really frustrating.
Lunch is too much too soon. I presume by lunch you mean just you and her? That's too much pressure until a comfort level sets in. I was rebuffed with the lunch invites too so don't be discouraged that it will always be that way. I still don't ask her to lunch on weekdays. I would suggest starting with talking to her...I mean when you do the child exchange. Start with a R that centers around your common interest...your child. Do you pick your child up around supper? If so, then sometime just ask.."have you eaten". I phrase it that way all the time. Or say "I'm starving. I don't feel like cooking for me and D. Wanna grab a bite with us?" I don't exactly know how to proceed except start small. The doing things without the kids part of my R is something that has come about through repeated contact that initially always included the children.
Very little to report. I mainly vegged out yesterday and did some work. My wife's family had a get together that I was invited to, but it was out of town and I couldn't make it. I was hoping my W would at least ask if I was going out there. I did see that she called yesterday afternoon so maybe she was going to ask. She also called this am to see what I did yesterday. That was nice of her.
Anyway, that's all for now.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
