I guess I was short-sighted about my expectations of how "friendship" would be w/ my W under these circumstances. The trouble is, and you're right, I need to be the one to foster the development of friendship, but I don't know how to go about that without the onset of pursuit or pressure felt by my W. I have made offers to do lunch or other things before, but they were rebuffed. So, I don't know the path I'm supposed to follow in this regard. It is really frustrating.
So, the big question is how can I redevelop the friendship w/ my W.
BTW, I think it is great that you can spend so much time w/ your X. Her comments of feeling sad when she sees families hits home w/ me. I just about break down when I go to the park w/ my K's. Maybe it is making her think a little.
