Hey Bruce:

Are you serious about that apology thing? I mean, arent we all totally outstanding Monday morning QBs on this bb when it comes to everyone else's sitches. And arent we all just great at ignoring everyone else's advice and doing just what we please? So what is the value of staying on this bb and talking to each other? Well, I think it is twofold: 1) When each of us blunders on, it is good to have our bottoms whacked by everybody so we realize we have been foolish, 2) It is great to see that all of us are blundering on and maybe, just maybe we will learn from each other's mistakes and will keep each other honest.

I can tell you, without this bb and some other sources, I would have been a total wreck and would never had known how to handle this calamity that befell me.

Bruce, one thing that you constantly tell Wes I do agree with - he does need to GAL and get some inner balance independent of the sitch. He is too deeply interwtined with his W and that makes life interesting as well difficult for him. He does not appear to have time to calm down and think of a strategy that will work in the long-term. But, this is easier said than done of course. I mean, one should do what works, right? The question is, is his current interaction with W working for him? That is a very difficult question to answer....

UD


The 3 laws of DBing: 1. PMA is critical to DBing. 2. Since drop in WAW's PMA leads to drop in LBS's PMA and vice-versa detachment is critical. 3. Validate to raise WAW's PMA and GAL to raise LBS's.