Well well well. I see everyone has been busily adding to my thread. I love it. It moves me that much closer to the piecing area of the bb. I appreciate all the input. But after I give the update I suspect you will all feel I just ignore my own and everyone else's advice.

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Hey Wes, where are you? We are taking over your thread. Hope you did not get a life.



Of course I was out getting a life. But my life involves doing things with my ex. Here's the day. I went to work and left my cell on. When I got back to it there were quite a few calls and a message (from my ex). She just explained why she didn't call back, what she did last night, and whether I wanted to play some more tennis. Ignoring my own previous message I called her back and agreed.

First we went to lunch, then played tennis. Lunch was good...decent conversation. After tennis I did some stuff on my own and then called her about some educational games for her kids. Of course I asked her if she wanted to go to the movie with me. Obviously..duh. She agreed. So I just got back from that. It went well. Actually...before we got into the movie she told me she was sad. She went for a walk and saw a bunch of families and it made her sad. I just said "I understand".

The movie went fine. A little chit chat. Talked briefly after the show and said bye. End of night.

So the answer...yes, getting a life, just not one that excludes my ex. Bruce, things are maybe a little unnatural, but I seriously doubt that these little pseudodates can become natural until we've done it awhile. Just like dating..asking out isn't easy right away. It's only when you are more comfortable. And btw, when I first started dating her we talked dozens of times a day (we were 200 miles apart)

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W told me that she wanted to remain friends and missed my friendship, yet, she really hasn't done anything notable that would indicate to me that she is looking to build our friendship. So, why would I go out of my way to make a big effort as well



Kevin kevin Kevin....Did you miss the part where it says you are the only one that will work on this relationship? j/k kinda. But building a friendship isn't any different than building the M. You are the one that is willing so you are the one that has to carry the load. Sorry.

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Can you sustain this R and enthusiasm for as long as it takes? Another year? Two? Three?



I refuse to believe that I will have to continue as I am for a year, two, or three. How could it. We'll either move closer together or get sick of each other.

Briget, thanks for the input.

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Can you do it today? If yes then do it.

Can you do it tomorrow? if yes then do it.

How about the next day?



Yes, Yes, and Yes

In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years.
Abraham Lincoln

It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed.
Theodore Roosevelt