Or tennis with the dog; how embarrasing would it be to lose to the dog?
I agree, for all of us, we need to get out and get involved in activities for us and should the natural, non-forced occasion present itself, invite the other person.
But I sense a strain or force on your part, to include her or to get yourself included. It does not feel natural, like it would with a new person. My read, but it could be WAY OFF.
There is little doubt, as we have discussed, about your feelings for her. As I questioned, is it enough for her to break through her obstacles and of course, it raises the natural hindsight question, of, if she could have, you might not be D.
This dynamic as twisted and as bizzare and unnatural as it is, works. It works for both of you, right now. Breaking it off and wanting her to seek you out or miss you, is not likely to work. Tweaking it (to whatever degree) may have some effect, but to what objective?
I guess the way I would look at it and you have sort of alluded to this; is approach it as a NEW R with a NEW person. It is unlikely you would call the new person several times a day or invite her to every activity you are involved in. It would likely drive her away. Think in those terms and see if you do not form a different perspective?
ps Do not listen to us. We do not have "dates" with our X's or talk to them several times a day or get invited anywhere by them. And they do not drop by to leave books or walk the cat.
