Hi, Wes. Bruce makes a good point with changing the dynamic, but I think that that is basically what all of us are attempting to do anyways.
But, I am going to attack you here from another perspective. Time to do some GAL work!
Didn't you say that when you were first together that you couldn't give all of your heart to your ex, afraid to give totally? (I think that was you, I just can't find the post now!) So, with all the hurt from her walking away, are you positive you could give your whole heart to her this time?
Another thing, and this is something that I muddle through my mind every now and then, Are you absolutely sure of your intent to develop a new R?
I ask this from a psych standpoint. I don't think anyone likes to be 'dumped' and would rather be the 'dumper'; so I ask myself over and over-am I just trying to win my ex back so I can be the one to WA at the first sign of trouble.
Next, you really have to get some productive outlets going in your life. Not another R or going totally dark to her, but to have some interests outside the time that is spent w/her. No one wants to be the only source of happiness in a R/M. I am actually quite upset w/my ex over his selling his bike since that was his pride and joy and made him more of a complete person. He has picked up tickering w/some models, so that is a good sign that he still has personal outlets. I wouldn't want him back w/me if there was nothing in his life other than work to satisfy him.
I'm starting to ramble here and probably not make sense. (been a long weekend and it's not over yet!) I just thought I would through out some things for you to comtemplate. What kind of things does Wes enjoy to do? Things that make you happy or satisfies you w/o involving your ex?
