Dogma, I don't post often, but I read every day almost and I feel I am in a very similar position as Wes with his ex W. Mine is not x yet, we are separated for over a year now, but the dynamics are very much like this. When you say that Wes and his ex W are not going to move off of this dynamic unless someone does something different, what would you suggest? Frankly, I do have the same feelings of addiction and urgency, high expectations, fears...and my W keeps coming back and wanting to be close, but only so close and only so far....I think she too will never let herself go all the way back to "us" because of pride or fear or anger deep down. If I do something drastic, like the LRT or get out there and 'date' (she has a little), part of me thinks this will 'wake her up', yet the other part thinks she will just be relieved to not be the one to make final decision.
Anyway, I would be curious if you had some thoughts what Wes could do to stir up his situation in a constructive way?
