Dear Chrissy and H - Wow I have just been reading your thread. Firstly the fact that you are both doing this together is a good sign as you both obviously want to work this out. Next communication well you seem to sort of have that. Controlling H is think that is you, why do you have to controll Chrissy she really hasn't done anything that wrong. You have both done exactly the same thing, you were both confiding in someone of the opposite sex obviously as you couldn't talk to each other. There is the communication thing something that I think needs works. The fact that you are both seeking answers together here is a sign that you can work this out. The fact that neither of you has had a physical affair with anyone, shows me you have a chance as maybe if you didn't address this now one of you would have gone down that road. Why don't both of you admit that your partner may have a point and work out the real reason you both seeked comfort from someone else. Then you may truly be able to solve this and get on with your M. Chrissy it does concern me that you are depressed and have obviously thought about exiting this world prematurely and H that should bother you alot. Look after each other have a good chat, don't blame each other try and understand that you can both have a different opinion on something and respect that and find some middle ground. Alot of us here only wish we could have this chance with our spouses you have both got the chance to fix this so sit and start talking honestly and repesct each other and sort it out. Nothing physical is a lot easier to heal and nobody cheated. GOODLUCK TO BOTH OF YOU.....Kim
