It's getting difficult to read through multiple quotes that aren't quoted!
Chrissy thanks for your good wishes, but be it know that my sitch hasn't ended!
Anyway, I'm not sure you guys got my point. H wants to be proved right, and he wants to make sure this or that is said so that we all understand what's going on and can weigh down on a side... and my point is that this isn't the perspective for working on a relationship. It's not about one person being right and the other wrong. All H can accomplish with all this is to create two sides that will be inherently at odds with each other, one "right", the other "wrong". If mistakes were made, then resolve them, forgive them and move on. There's no need to present a case, unless you're in a courtroom. Not too much loving goes on in courtrooms though. You have to ask yourself, what do I really want? Is the answer a loving relationship, or do you want to win an argument? So, doesn't the focus have to be more on "how can we get past this without resorting to fixing blame?" as fixing blame or winning an argument still won't turn things around, but rather, leave one person feeling they're to blame, and the other feeling morally superior, instead of resulting in two people happy with the outcome.
