___________________________________________________________ My question is this: Once you are married or in an R, and your spouse has had/is having an EA/PA while being in the R, but let's say ends it...as the other spouse do you have a right to tell your cheating spouse that they cannot be friends with that person if the 2 parties involved agreed to be friends after it was done? ___________________________________________________________
I seem to be quite liberal in my thinking at times and my take since the question would be put out there is. If there was a EA while you are in a R or M depending on the circumstances I feel that continued contact may not be as detramental as making someone feel ordered not to have any further contact. If the EA was really a prelude to a PA it will disapate on its own accord with time sinces the PA is not going to happen now that both spouses are aware. I think sometimes emotional support is taken out of context by all three parties in the situation. I really feel emotional support of others is very healthy and needed for people to have if you deny your spouse this it may just result in a internal festering pus of resentment. Which is no good for anyone involved.
Now if there was a PA after someone is married and the PA has ended and they want to continue contact No I do not agree that is healthy for the M to recover from the A. Nor do I think it is just for the owner of the PA to feel there spouse should have to live with the discomfort that a continued friendship on this level should exist. You will always have in the back of your head if things get rough will it happen again. My opinion of a 3rd parties rights in a PA are this if they knew from the start of the A that the party involved was in a marriage They knew what they were getting into and have no right of consideration of there feelings. If you pick up a rotten apple and still take a bite the after taste is yours to suffer. Again this is if they new the real circumstances up front.( Being told I am seperated or I am getting a divorce in the begining changes my opinion to some degree on this) Now in a EA again since so much is left to perception. The 3rd party in a EA may have really only been offering emotional support. The S in neediness may have precieved it as meaning more therefore putting the 3rd party into a guilt that they never signed up for. Now again if the 3rd party went into a EA with the hope of it becomming a PA and tried to undermined your R ahhh that person falls into the has no right of feelings considered catagory.
Depending on your sitch and where it falls between the lines of my answer would determine if I would feel that a right was entitled as to demanding the person cut of all ties with the OW.
