Quote: Once you are married or in an R, and your spouse has had/is having an EA/PA while being in the R, but let's say ends it...as the other spouse do you have a right to tell your cheating spouse that they cannot be friends with that person if the 2 parties involved agreed to be friends after it was done
Because I am the LBS and my H is the WAS who has/is having an EA, I feel that it should absolutely be my right to say they cannot be friends. If I didn't it would be like me not being able to tell my H having as a pet, the snake that traumatically bit off a part of my body. The snake in this case would have left emotional scars on me and if H valued me, then he would understand why he cannot have the snake as a pet.
I think that a relationship that developed as a result of an EA is completely different to a normal relationship and should not be treated as the same.
But then as you can probably tell from the tone of this post, I am a tad biased.
Sorry if I offend anyone or come across as too judgemental on this.
