Quote: I myself do not feel it is since the sexual relationship was prior to the commitment of the marriage or prior to any relationship being formed with the later couple. I believe that just because two people make a lousy couple that they can still make wonderful friends. And there is nothing wronge with this. I do conceed if anything that it can be percieved as a EA. But again to me emotional support by someone of the oppisite sex does not always foot the bill of a EA either.
I think that it is possible for two people to remain friends after breaking up a relationship, as long as this wasnt an affair to begin with. That is, if two unattached people have a relationship, then break up and want to remain friends then I think that this is great.
At the same time, I feel that there is a difference between emotional support and an emotional affair. My H had a very emotional affair with someone he met at a bus stop!!! This was very detrimental to our M as he just stopped investing at all in our M and I had begun to feel like a single parent at best and non-existent at worse.
Having said all this, I have just re-connected with an old boyfriend and he has provided me with tons of emotional support but we are not having an A, EA or otherwise, and there is no emotional connection as such between us. There is a recognition that we had shared something precious and that this has created a bond between us.
