I have no issue with sex during my period especially on the lighter days. H worries that it might introduce infection because the cervix is partially open during this time. Secretly, I think he finds it yucky because he is rather inexperienced and anxious about sex in general. He is going to be 40yo and had only two sexual partners (each fairly brief)prior to me four years ago.
I know you didn't ask me this question but for us... #1 My H isn't too hot on the idea #2 For me...I could and it wouldn't bother me to do so, but I also don't feel things nearly as well at that time....not to mention it's hard to feel terribly sexy at that time LOL.
Gel - ditto on the not feelin too sexy during the period sentiment. When I was younger I did find that sex during a p has a way of easing cramps though.
Heading into the weekend with H. I can only hope that is healing emotionally from visiting his Mom last weekend. He did propose a date for us on Saturday. Goodness knows, I am game. The rest of the weekend will be devoted to getting kids ready for school to start on Monday and going to some birthday parties. I would love to think that we would be horizontal at least two of three nights after our recent hiatus but I suspect that it will only happen if I bring it up, mention it, start it or move things that direction. That just chaps my hide. I may or may not really be up for that. He knows I want it by now, am getting frustrated by it and so he doesn't need to do anything. If I do start it then I forever wonder if I was the only one who was really iterested.
H made a recent comment that he is frutrated by all the things going wrong (teenager stuff, his Mom, just found out his cholesterol is high etc...) and that he just needs a week where things go right. Then he can focus on things that he wants to and he named a couple of things - one of them was "having more regular sex". I am always baffled when he makes those kind of references. My question is - what is stopping you? Does anyone have any idea of how to get around the idea that everything must be going just right in order to ML?
Quote: one of them was "having more regular sex". I am always baffled when he makes those kind of references. My question is - what is stopping you? Does anyone have any idea of how to get around the idea that everything must be going just right in order to ML?
I’ve heard the same thing and asked the same questions. And you know what - fifteen years after W came out with the statement that we don’t ML often enough, I still don’t have any answers.
While pretty much every generality put forth on this board seems to draw somebody’s ire, I’ll offer one anyway. It seems to be a pretty common complaint that the LDS does seem to have to have everything in their life in order first. Somebody’s W is too worried about problems with the kids. Somebody else’s H is too stressed by something going on at work. Somebody else is worried that the dogs might be too inconvenienced by having to get off of the bed. Or they’re tired. Or their mother is sick. Among other things, to me ML is a respite from the real world, not something to be attended to once the real world is under control. It’s a deeply personal thing between W and myself where everything is good – regardless of what’s going on “out there”. LD’s don’t seem to see it that way.
Too true. In one of my many convos with H I said that I really wanted our M to be a respite from the world and that I saw ML as part of that. I don't think he ever responded to that sentiment. He can only seem to get his mind wrapped around the idea of sex if everything is hunky dory, we are on vacation or if things are mildly crazy in our life and I make a big deal of seducing him.
I don't think I am exaggerating when I say that I sometimes feel like the man in the R. I bring him flowers sometimes, or favorite treats (candy he likes or something) or send a little card or e-card. Sometimes I get a thank you sometimes no response at all. OTOH - I would leave the dishes halfway done just to run upstairs for a quickie. I would still come back and do them because I like my house clean but I really do believe in taking advantages of opportunities when they are presented.
Ladies - anyone else ever donned the naughty negligee and had your H just snuggle up to sleep? I have. I have a bunch of lovely lingerie and I NEVER wear it. H seems to respond better to just plain skin but also I can't bear the rejection of putting it on for nothing.
So much for improving one's SL as per Ladies Home Journal or Cosmopolitan Magazine. I have spent more money than I care to think about scouring those magazines for "advice" on being more sexy to my man. My H sometimes gets annoyed that I put on makeup or casual but put together clothes on for hanging around the house. He makes no connection between my trying to look nice and sex. I keep trying to find his particular "formula" with minimal success thus far.
Karen, I can sort of understand his preference for skin. Naughty nighties don't do half as much for me what the feel of naked skin against my body does. Now, if I could just get Mrs GGB to come to bed naked instead of in those cheap t-shirt like night gowns (she'll take them off if I make an issue of it, but hey, I am tired of making an issue out of everything to do with nookie). OTOH, a naughty nighty would do a bunch more for me than those awful pink and yellow cotton night shirts with cows and moons printed all over them Not that she'd wear it anyway. A while back I mentioned that the night shirts were a real turn off to me. She bought another night gown, that is basically the same cut, just without the obnoxious print and with a little bit of lace around the collar. To her that is a sexy nightie. Anything more risque is just in her words, "trashy" . *Sigh*
I don't know if you read on my own thread what I posted today....but last night I had an interesting experience. My H and I never text each other on our cell phones....last night I sent a suggestive text to him while he was at work....that got the most response out of him that I've had in awhile....I think I'm going to try another tonight a bit more risque' and see what happens.
My H seemed very happy to know I was thinking of him that way...and as he phrased it so proudly..."my wife sent me a HOT text message to let me know she was thinking of me!!!" Now, this is something I'D LOVE for him to do for me....but this got a bigger reaction out of him that I'd expected. No we didn't ML (he never does during the week) but he was much more affectionate towards me when he did get home....think I'll try again and see what happens. Sure is cheaper than sexy lingere!!!
Not that she'd wear it anyway. A while back I mentioned that the night shirts were a real turn off to me. She bought another night gown, that is basically the same cut, just without the obnoxious print and with a little bit of lace around the collar. To her that is a sexy nightie. Anything more risque is just in her words, "trashy" 
. *Sigh*