Re Karen1 His response? Ok. I said, "OK?" He said, I've just been too exhausted to think about it......and then fell asleep. All of this could have been true. Maybe he was leveling with you. I know if BB said that to me I would believe her. I would also be disappointed that sex was not happening but realise some people thought process seem to be very different than mine.
Another thought is in my case if I hint I was thinking about something like ("Gee honey, I've been missing sex with you too) and I dont do it right there and now, I get clobbered late for not doing it then. I learned not to say much because some of what I say is used against me later.
I have had similar experiences while working in the deliquent boys grouphome. Anything you say to explain your position or feelings will be interpreted slightly to someone elses benefit and used against you if the right/wrong conditions are in play.
I am not slamming anyone here. Just saying I have seen this happen many times when someone feels leftout or that you have some power over them.
