Maybe instead of trying to get him to 'get' you, maybe taking an approach where you try to 'get' him, you know get inside his head and understand what he feels, and what makes him tick, might get you to a better place, KWIM?
Yeah, I keep taking this route. It hasn't helped much. I don't get H. When I ask him he is always "tired" or "frustrated" or already "feeling bad" about something OR sometimes we aren't having sex because he has determined that I am "tired" or "frustrated" etc... ___________________________________________________________
If Jessica Simpson/Brad Pitt started dating our S, I'm guessing they would react very different sexually with them than with us. Eventually even that relationship would form baggage, etc (as most relationships do) and the LD person would revert back to their typical patterns
I think this too when I am in a logical place. I am not right now. ___________________________________________________________
Karen... Was H able to tell you that the reason he couldn't get into sex was because of the upcoming family trip? I think if you both could communicate about some of the reasons behind his LD, it would take some of the personal sting out of the equation. ___________________________________________________________
This is just my educated guess for now. I plan to address it with H tonight. I know the "hot babe" line of thinking doesn't help. It usually spirals into me reading every latest women's magazine to figure out how to be "more sexy" - BTW - NONE of that kind of thing registers on H whatsoever. Frankly, the only thing I have ever been able to associate with getting H's motor running is vacation or the possibility of pregnancy (he loves kids). That probably sounds strange but that is about it.
Obviously not in a good place right now. I will strive to get my head out of my butt and post better thoughts soon.
