"I'm guessing if your H were married to Jessica or some other equally hot babe, it wouldn't change him a bit. It is just the way he is wired. The upside? well, I keep telling myself that I never have to worry about MrsGGB cheating on me "
I think people's SD is almost completely mental, sure there may be some physical circumstances but I think that is very rare. Our S's react to us sexually more often because of how they feel about themselves and how the other person makes them feel.
If Jessica Simpson/Brad Pitt started dating our S, I'm guessing they would react very different sexually with them than with us. Eventually even that relationship would form baggage, etc (as most relationships do) and the LD person would revert back to their typical patterns.
It's not about a person's looks but if someone that "hot" presented themselved to our S, I don't think it is strange to assume that they would not be LD in that instance. It may eventually return LD, but that is the point. We are in marriages with "baggage" and we can choose to deal with that baggage in a healthy way or unhealthy way, one of which is letting it destroy any intimacy/sexuality between spouses.
Also, the high rate of infidelity would help explain why typically LD spouses would go outside the marriage to find sexual fulfillment. It is a given that HD spouses may be unfaithful after time but I think LD spouses are just as vulnerable. No one is happy in a marriage with no intimacy, I don't care if you are the HD or LD.
