The "I'm taking you upstairs right now" idea has some merit. However, when I have used an agressive tactic like this H gets mad. As he puts it, sometimes he has low tolerance for being told he isn't doing well enough. However, I notice that he often doesn't really notice the positive comments at all. Maybe I'm not saying things right?
H just called and I know he is feeling stressed. He knows I am feeling very stressed from work as well and I sometimes think that H projects his stress and his own personal preferences in dealing with stress - like, oh, K is feeling stressed I'm sure she would want some space. Sometimes I just want to scream "I do NOT want space. I want you mashed up against me and sweating all over me.
Yeah, I could probably figure out how to "lead him to water" but I just don't want too. KWIM? Tomorrow night we leave for hsi family reunion where we will be sharing our hotel room with multiple children for two nights - Oh joy!
