Thanks. Yes, my H needs to feel the loving connection first before the sex whereas I do the typical guy pattern of thinking "We know we love each other let's have sex."
His very supportive and loving to me. Oddly, ripping off my clothes and having sex with me would also read as supportive to me but he just doesn't think that way.
In answer to your question - sometimes I push for sex and if I do he responds with varying degrees of actual interest. Sometimes I just self soothe. Lately, I have been doing much more of the self soothing route because I just don't have it in me to push. I would love for there to just be a more natural give and take.
