I brought up the porn in therapy and the C shot me down. (Don't forget this was the C who wound up having a midlife crisis, leaving her H and has both boyfriends and girlfriends now - we don't see her anymore). Haven't had the guts to bring it up since. I truly don't know how often he does it or when he gets the opportunty - with the teens there is little privacy in our home. I have my own computer and so I am never on his to check anything and I think that doing so for an activity that he freely admits would be wrong. Twice a week would probably be the most although he has never said and I haven't asked. However, if we ML at that frequency then I would shut up now wouldn't I? However, it does bear some discussion again sometime. I do think that in some ways that type of fantasy life takes away from the partnership - I didn't used to think so but I have changed my tune.
Seeing my friend will be great. She is a wise woman and it always so good to talk with her.
I DO plan to hogtie, cajole, beg, insist and/or throw my 6'2' H down on the bed if necessary.
